When we finally repent of our mistakes and forgive those who have hurt us – as God calls us to do over and over again in his Word – then the light of God shines like a bright, healing beam in our hearts and clears the vision of God before us. ~ Matt Brown
What unfinished hurts are still taking up residence in your soul? How much has it cost you to allow your hurts to live rent-free deep down inside you? Why do you withhold forgiveness from those who have hurt you when your Creator has already forgiven you for your many flaws and failures? What must happen for you to let go and let God?
Every person has experienced some form of neglect, abuse, or harm. Therefore our hurts come in many shapes and sizes, e.g., physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, sexual, financial, etc. When we experience such pain, it ripples through our lives and the lives of those closest to us. It’s easy to find people who will co-sign our pain and help fuel our desire for revenge. Unfortunately, our soul becomes poisoned by the harm we have suffered; we quickly become resentful, refuse to forgive, and pledge to get even at all costs. We end up paying a hefty price for unfinished hurts and left undone; it could cost us our sanity, our freedom, and potentially our very lives.
The problem with victimization is that we can slowly destroy ourselves, and we don’t believe it’s our fault. Every day throughout the world, alcoholics drink themselves to death; addicts overdose; overeaters eat themselves to death; undereaters starve themselves to death, spendthrifts bankrupt themselves and others, and gamblers gamble away their life savings and guess what? It’s never their fault. Prisoners sit in a 10 x 6 or 9 x 7 jail cell for the rest of their lives, and it’s not their fault. Hurt people hurt people, and victims pay dearly for passing the buck and often sabotage their own lives in the process.
It’s easy to pass the blame for the hurts, habits, and hang-ups in our lives. There is zero relief or healing to be experienced when you play the victim and conclude that others are more to blame than yourself—refusing to look at your part and taking ownership of your own life. It would be best if you become willing to go to any length to find forgiveness for yourself, those who have harmed you, and those you have injured. Since you are a forgiven person, you must become a forgiving person. Until you do, your soul will remain sick, you will continue to pass the blame, and you will likely grow old and die a broken and bitter victim.
Good news! There is hope for you if you are tired of hurting and relying on worldly remedies to deal with your pain. You can’t do it alone, but with God’s help and the support of trusted friends, you can have victory over your pain and the darkness deep down inside you. God can and will heal you from your lingering soul-sickness if you honestly seek out God and become willing to apply spiritual principles to your spiritual dilemma. You suffer from a spiritual malady, an actual soul sickness. Alcohol, drugs (including prescription drugs), money, food, sex, etc., will only mask the pain and eventually quit working altogether and could lead to your demise.
It takes a lot of courage to bring your dark past into the light, but you will continue to suffer until you do. Nothing good grows in the dark, so start praying for the capacity, to be honest, willing, and open-minded. It will take everything you have to confront your hurts, habits, and hang-ups, take ownership of your life, and heal from your pain, but you can do it. Seek God through prayer and meditation. Become willing to turn your will and life over to the care of God. Seek out the help of a trusted friend, clergy, professional, life coach, or sponsor from a 12 Step group related to your hurts, habits, and hang-ups and start the spiritual process of healing and reconciliation.
If you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you are getting. Today is the day to let go and let God. Today is the day to bring closure to your unfinished hurts.
God of love, would you please grant me the ability to get honest, willing, and open-minded about my unfinished hurts so I can experience your healing nature. I am tired of experiencing the pain of these unfinished hurts in my life. I am ready for my soul to be cleansed and healed. I know You want me to be happy, joyous, and free, but You require action on my part. Would you please grant me the courage to seek Your transforming power for my life? I desire to be free at last and forgive those who have hurt me in one way or another. In Your Spirit and Name, I pray these things. May Your will not mine always materialize, now and forever. Amen.
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